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Creative Ways Parents Can Prevent Boredom on Cold and Rainy Fall Days
In this post, I have the pleasure of sharing great parenting ideas from Carrie Spencer that both educate and entertain! Enjoy!
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Creative Ways Parents Can Prevent Boredom on Cold and Rainy Fall Days
The days are getting shorter and the temperatures are getting cooler, which can only mean one thing: fall and winter are right around the corner! While these seasons can be filled with tons of fun outdoor adventures and festive holidays to keep your family connected, they can also be filled with rainy or windy days that will have kids feeling stir-crazy indoors. To beat that boredom and keep those blustery days filled with exciting and educational activities your whole family can enjoy,consider using some of these brilliant ideas.
Get Creative With Your Family History
If you’re looking for an educational and enjoyable activity to keep your kids having fun indoors, why not let them take a crack at your family tree? Genealogy can help your children learn about their relatives as well as any cultural background around them, and ancestry databases make it really simple to fill in your family’s history. They can even interview you and their grandparents or other older family members, to get even more fun details and facts.
Want to access ancestry sites without paying expensive monthly fees? Try signing up for a free trial before your kids start their family tree.
Build Stronger Connections With Each Other
As you look for rainy day activities to help keep your kids entertained this fall and winter, also look for activities that will strengthen your connections. For example, exercising as a family or preparing healthy snacks together are both ways to beat boredom and keep your family healthy. Taking some time to laugh and have fun together can also be crucial for strong bonds, so maybe plan a family movie day complete with a family-friendly comedy.
If you are looking to take your connection and resiliency to the next level, you can also consider participating in a seminar or workshop from Family Connections Coaching, which will help your family thrive.
Allow Your Kids to Benefit From Gaming
Yes, you read that correctly. Playing video games can have quite a few benefits for your children, so there’s no reason why you can’t let them stay warm inside with their favorite games. Kids who play video games tend to have a better sense of connection, independence and competence, plus gaming can help children develop conflict resolution and even STEM skills, especially for girls.
For kids who play online games with friends, for the fun of family game nights, and to keep up your Zoom meetings while the kids are playing, you need to make sure your home internet connection can handle that activity. The best internet for gaming should also allow you to work or study from home with minimal lag time or interruptions.
Prepare Some Tasty Fall Treats Together
If you want to keep your kids having fun and learning on cooler fall days, you should get them into the kitchen! Teaching kids cooking skills will not only impart one of life’s most basic and helpful skills, but this family activity can also help your children learn more about math, problem-solving, reading comprehension, nutrition and so much more.
The next time rainy or windy weather has your kids feeling bored, look up some fun fall recipes that you can all cook or prepare as a family. With a few basic ingredients and some simple steps, you could whip up some scrumptious french toast sticks for breakfast or some pumpkin cookies as a sweet treat.
Rainy, windy or snowy days don’t have to turn into boring days for your kids. Just be prepared with a few creative and fun-filled activities, and you can prevent the boredom that can lead to behavior issues and conflicts. You can even plan for activities your entire family can enjoy this fall and winter. After all, grown-ups can get bored on rainy days too!
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Family Connections Coaching is pleased to support you throughout your parenting journey with holistic coaching, workshops, and family-oriented services, so visit our website to learn more.
Medication Disaster Plan: Building and storing a first aid kit
In this post, I have the pleasure of sharing a great resource from Sarah Breckon of Singlecare.com. She graciously reached out to me and offered this to my readers and me to support us in our preparedness for emergencies. Please check out Singlecare.com for a wealth of information regarding health and wellness. Enjoy!
By SINGLECARE TEAM | APRIL 15, 2020
Medically reviewed by ANIS REHMAN, MD
Emergencies and natural disasters are a threat for everyone, and for people who need prescription medications to treat serious medical issues, the threat doesn’t stop once a pandemic subsides, the floods recede, or the fires go out.
If you take life-saving medication, or are a caregiver for someone who does, practicing effective emergency preparedness should be part of your care strategy.
What is emergency preparedness?
Emergency preparedness is the act of carrying out a few, well-known actions that increase your level of safety during a crisis.
Some emergencies are international news—like a hurricane approaching a major city. But not every emergency makes CNN. A family member can unexpectedly fall ill or a gas leak can require your whole block to evacuate.
What are the four phases of emergency preparedness?
These are the four phases of preparedness:
Mitigation
Preparedness
Response
Recovery
Whether you know it or not, you and everyone in your community are in one or more of these phases right now.
The mitigation phase involves activities that limit the damage an emergency could cause. For example, removing dry branches around a property could prevent a brush fire from reaching the home.
The preparedness phase is training for events that can’t be mitigated. An out-of-control forest fire may require homeowners to evacuate no matter how thorough their prevention efforts. Activities may include creating an emergency kit or go bag.
The response phase consists of actions taken during and immediately after the emergency. A parent evacuating their family as a fire approaches is an example of response phase activity.
The recovery phase begins once life gets (mostly) back to normal. Life and property are no longer threatened and schools and businesses have started to reopen. Now the focus turns to repairing physical, financial, and emotional damage caused by the emergency. Recovery includes determining how to limit the damage from future, similar emergencies and restarts the mitigation phase.
What kind of emergencies should you prepare for?
Based on where you live, some emergencies are more likely than others. Understanding the risks in your area can guide your thinking as you develop an emergency or natural disaster preparedness plan.
Emergency planners categorize disasters into three categories.
Minor emergencies (e.g., a residential house fire)
Limited and potential emergencies (e.g., localized flooding)
Major disasters (e.g., an earthquake)
Every community is subject to different hazards, and every adult has different responsibilities. A single pet owner living in a floodplain will make different preparation plans than a mother of five in a major city prone to earthquakes.
Consider which emergencies are most likely in your area, and what would be required of you in every case.
Using medications during an emergency
Considering your medication needs during an emergency could be a life-or-death decision. Everyone who requires medication should consider how they would maintain their supply during the types of emergencies they are most likely to experience.
The preparedness phase is the most important one to think about to ensure access to medication. What would you do in case of an unexpected disaster you can’t mitigate like a strong earthquake or 100-year flood? These are some things to consider.
Keep an up-to-date list of medications including dose and indicated use
Emergencies are stressful times, and you don’t want to rely on memory if you need to replace medications for yourself or the people who need them. What if you need a pill you’ve been taking for years and you’re incapacitated? Will a search and rescue team know what medication you need?
Know how much medication is on hand
Keep a calendar that shows when your medication will run out. This will help you remember to order refills and provide a quick reference in case of emergency. You’ll be able to see just how large your supply is, and if you have advance warning of an impending emergency that could disrupt access to your pharmacy, you’ll know whether you need to quickly obtain early refills.
Place medication bottles or packages in water-tight containers
Medicine storage containers can take many forms from a large stack of drawers in a hospital to a simple plastic pill box. If heavy rain or flooding is a hazard for your community, consider storing your medications in a water-tight container like a plastic food storage bin.
If flood water comes into contact with your medications, it’s strongly recommended that you not use them unless absolutely necessary.
Have a cooler available for medications that need refrigeration
Natural disasters like forest fires, earthquakes, and hurricanes can take the power grid offline. If your refrigerator stopped working, how would you keep your medication cold? Anyone who takes refrigerated medications should keep a small portable cooler on hand. Gel travel coolers are less messy (though ice will work, too).
For insulin medication used to treat high blood glucose associated with diabetes, refrigeration is recommended but not absolutely necessary. Insulin can be left unrefrigerated for up to 28 days, as long as the temperature stays between 59 and 86 degrees Fahrenheit. If you live in an area with extreme temperatures, consider how you would keep your insulin within this temperature range in case of an evacuation. A cooler can be used to keep insulin safe. Insulin isn’t dangerous to take if exposed to extreme temperatures, it simply loses effectiveness. Since insulin is a life-sustaining drug for diabetes type 1 patients, keeping insulin supplies at optimum temperature is important. Follow the FDA recommendations for insulin usage in an emergency, and see this insulin storage chart for information about specific products.
As part of your emergency preparation plan, ask your doctor or pharmacist if any of your medications require refrigeration.
Here’s a list of common prescription medications that must stay refrigerated.
All the insulins
Byetta
Trulicity
Humira
Dupixent
This is not a comprehensive list, please check with your pharmacist for your medications that may need refrigeration.
How do you get medication in an emergency situation?
Any pharmacy can supply emergency fills of certain critical medications when the patient has an immediate therapeutic need. Examples include antibiotics, insulin, and rescue inhalants.
As you consider how emergency fills fit into your emergency preparedness plan, be aware of these restrictions:
You must have a prescription to get an emergency fill.
Emergency fills are (at most) only a seven-day supply.
You must pay the full cost of the medication upfront at the pharmacy, and apply for full or partial reimbursement later. The amount of your reimbursement will depend on your plan.
With many health plans, if you go to an out-of-network pharmacy, you will not be reimbursed.
Additional rules around emergency fills (including which specific medications are allowed) vary depending on your health insurance plan.
For medications that are not considered emergency fills, you won’t be able to get a refill until you’re able to contact your health provider.
Basic medications, like pain relievers, may be available at shelters or delivered by emergency management authorities.
What is a first aid kit?
A first aid kit is a collection of supplies that can be used to mitigate health issues until professional medical attention is available. The Centers for Disease Control recommends that families have an emergency kit that should include both first aid supplies and nonmedical supplies.
What should be in a first aid kit?
The Red Cross recommends these items for a first aid kit:
Absorbent compress dressings
Adhesive bandages
Adhesive cloth tape
Antibiotic ointment packets
Antiseptic wipe packets
Aspirin (81 milligrams each)
Emergency blanket
Breathing barrier
Instant cold compress
Non-latex gloves
Hydrocortisone ointment packets
A gauze roll bandage
Sterile gauze pad
An oral thermometer
Triangular bandages
Tweezers
An emergency first aid instructional guide
What should not be in a first aid kit?
Do not put anything in your first aid kit that could contaminate your supplies or otherwise render them unusable. One example: A glass mercury thermometer, which could break and spill a dangerous chemical and broken glass.
If you buy a pre-assembled first aid kit from a reputable source, you won’t need to worry about this risk.
What is a go bag?
A go bag is a collection of personal and medical items that will help you survive an emergency and recover faster from the effects. Your first aid kit (or go bag medicine kit) is just one component of a go bag.
The contents of your go bag will depend on your personal situation and where you store it.
The go bag in your home, where you have a lot of storage space, can be much bigger than the go bag at your office or in your car.
These are the general categories to consider:
Food
Water
Cash
Personal sanitation and hygiene supplies
Prescription medications and prescriptions
Survival needs
Communications devices and chargers
Personal identity and financial documents
Ways to keep kids occupied
Home go bags
The Department of Homeland Security recommends that your home emergency kit has enough supplies that you could survive for 72 hours in the event of an emergency.
The specific items you’ll need to meet that goal depends on the size of your family and where you live.
Take water, for instance. Your home emergency kit should have 3 gallons of water per person (a gallon per person per day) and perhaps more if you live in a very hot area.
What about food? A 3-day supply for a family with four teenagers will be a lot more than for a family with a 7-year-old. If you have a baby, your emergency kit must contain three days’ worth of baby formula.
Survival needs will differ. If you live in Vermont, three days of survival might require a constant heating source and heavy blankets. In Hawaii, one small emergency blanket might do.
Consider the type of emergency you’re likely to experience in your area. The CDC recommends specific supplies for people in earthquake-prone areas (e.g., heavy, durable gloves for cleaning up debris, and a tow rope to facilitate rescues). People in flood-prone areas may want to pay special attention to how they’ll keep supplies dry if they evacuate in standing water.
Car and workplace go bags
You won’t be able to store as many survival items in your car or at your workplace as you can in your home. But emergencies happen at any time, so you should consider what you’d want to have with you.
Again, your kit will depend on your situation. If your office is walking distance from your home, you probably don’t need as extensive an emergency kit as you would if you commute 30 miles to work. If you rarely drive outside the city, you don’t need as many supplies as you would if you frequently find yourself on rural highways.
How to use an emergency preparedness plan template
Respected authorities such as the American Red Cross and the Department of Homeland Security offer general emergency preparedness plan templates.
Your state or other local government may also have templates specific to your area. This one for residents of Montgomery County, Maryland, includes community-specific information like utility company phone numbers and frequencies of local radio stations.
These emergency preparedness templates ask key questions about you and your family, and contain general guidelines that apply to everyone. Specific questions about prescription medication are among them.
Planning now ensures less confusion later
Practicing good emergency preparedness provides much needed certainty in the confusion of an emergency situation. Answers to questions like “how will I get my next dose of insulin?” will already be decided. Preparing now can prevent a dangerous health risk for you or your family.
Family Activity: Getting Your Kids Involved in Emergency Planning
I have the privilege of hosting another article from Charles Carpenter. He actually submitted this to me back in December. My apologies for the delay! But his content is definitely applicable to our current situation with the corona virus pandemic. The principles of helping our loved ones make meaning and appropriate plans to understand and act effectively in crisis is hugely important. Crises, traumas and losses, whether global, local, interpersonal or intrapersonal, require processes for us to make sense of them to healthily respond and recover. Charles has provided great guidance towards this end.
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California has seen weather-related events of epic proportions over the years. The state has witnessed deadly weather, sustained billions of dollars in damage, and been forced to deal with the aftermath of these disasters.
Children can quickly become frightened, especially if they see mom and dad looking worried. Of course, it’s important that you know what to do in the event of a natural disaster, but your kids also need to understand what’s going on and to feel reassured that you have a plan in place, that everything will be alright because you’re ready for the worst.
That means including your children in disaster planning so they have a sense of control and self-empowerment, and a knowledge of what it means to be in an emergency situation. Keeping them informed with conversation and answering their questions calmly and patiently gives them the tools they need to cope with a scary situation.
A dialogue
Maintaining a dialogue with your kids is a good way to keep them thinking rather than panicking. Start by explaining what causes storms, floods, mudslides, and wildfires, and why California is particularly vulnerable to them. Discuss climate change and its possible repercussions for the area and list some ways you can all help prevent global warming. Spend some time online researching the causes of severe weather or check out a YouTube video that explains the science behind it all clearly and in layman’s terms. If you have teenagers, allow them to express their feelings without judging what they’re saying. Remember, you want to assuage fears by providing information and communicating openly.
Plan
Involve your kids in planning for a natural disaster. Work together to figure out what you should include in an emergency kit, things like first aid items and prescription medications; a change of clothes; a flashlight and batteries; a knife and matches; food and water; and a raincoat or poncho. Tell them they can bring one or two items but no more, and explain why. If you’re being evacuated to an emergency shelter or a converted public building, explain why it’s important to remain there until the weather clears. The more disaster preparation is a conversation in your home, the better your family will handle the situation in the moment, and the safer everyone will be.
Evacuation
When dangerous weather forces evacuations, everyone’s scared and anxious about what’s going to happen to their home and belongings. It’s especially frightening for children when it comes with little or no warning. They need to understand why things are happening, especially since it all takes place so fast. Explain that evacuating is for everyone’s good and that you’re doing everything according to your disaster plan. Make it an intellectual rather than an emotional discussion by explaining in detail why it’s happening, how it happened, and why you’re leaving.
Pet Plan
Pets are one of the reasons why many people choose not to evacuate. In the eyes of a child, leaving behind a furry family member can be a significant source of fear, but pets should never be left behind. For this reason, it is extremely important to have a pet evacuation plan in place. Instead, arrange for a safe haven either with you, a local animal shelter/boarding facility, friends, or family members. Encourage your kids to help you put together a pet emergency kit with food, water, updated tags/photos, first aid kit, and toys. If your pet will be staying elsewhere until the situation subsides, explain to your child that their beloved pet is safe, sound, and happy.
The more information you have in an emergency, the better you’ll be able to cope with the situation and anticipate other problems that might arise. The same goes for your kids. Like you, they need information to better understand what’s happening and why your family is going to such lengths to stay safe.
My interview with National Coach Academy
Thanks NCA for featuring me on your site!
Also thanks to Brandon Baker from Life Coach Path for conducting the interview!
NCA: Can you describe your coaching practice and the kinds of clients you typically work with?
Cecil: Family Connections Coaching partners with individuals and organizations to clarify and move towards greater health and integration. I believe wholeness supports the growth and development needed to effectively lead and manage our personal and professional lives. My clients have been parents, young couples, as well as leaders of nonprofit organizations.
NCA: What initially got you interested in this career path and what kind of degree or certifications did you need to complete, if any?
Cecil: In 2010, I started a director position to support the Christian education ministry of a church. In that role, I worked with a large volunteer staff as well as parents. A friend informed me of an introductory seminar on coaching and after attending, I knew this skill set would greatly increase my ability to challenge and support my staff and families. I started an ICF approved program in 2011 and got my Certificate of Transformational Coaching in 2014.
NCA: What is the most rewarding part of your career?
Cecil: I’ve found tremendous satisfaction in my clients’ courage, commitment and breakthrough’s in growing up and waking up. Seeing them progress in more meaningful awareness and skills of self leadership and care that results in more effective navigation of personal and professional matters.
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I hope my responses encourage up and coming coaches to pursue and develop themselves for greater effectiveness in serving others!
Christmas Mystery
Work, family, faith, fitness, finances.
Injustices, corruption, crime, death.
Success, wealth, power, fame.
Depression, anxiety, sorrow, grief.
What is it all for? What does it all mean? What are we doing with them?
Answers can be enigmatic.
Depending on the severity of our adverse experiences, it can all be quite problematic. Without the health and fortitude of substantial support from family, community, and living conditions, effective management and positive outcomes may be quite difficult to execute and achieve.
What is your map to happiness and success?
What operating system is running your personal programming?
What effects are you experiencing from hidden defaults and dynamics?
As divine image bearers, we are made to be creative, productive leaders and managers of all things. But with the profound mixture and complexity of earthly existence, we encounter and suffer many challenges to fulfilling our purpose and calling.
Christ (the incarnation of the universal pattern of order, disorder, reorder) is the spiritual path to help us make sense of life's mysteries and overcome the chronic, potentially devastating difficulties caused by life's greatest challenges: fear and pain associated with trauma and loss.
This pathway began with an incarnation of descent—God becoming one with what He loves: people. The nativity story identifies the radical problems of society: government control and corruption by elites, and its persecution of threats; inconveniences, struggles, and sufferings of the poor caused by unjust economics and politics; the failures of religion and anemic spirituality. Jesus came into the world and experienced all of that. And the pathway also begins there for us. We don't have to look far to see those realities.
And yet, that's exactly the context of Christmas. Into this mess comes God's gift to redeem the perpetual, systemic madness and dysfunction created by broken, unhealthy leaders.
With this backdrop, the underlying mysterious purpose and goal of God's mission in Christ shines bright: "that they may be one as we are one" (John 17:11)
This desire for oneness first showed up in Genesis 2:24, "That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh." So we see that essential to oneness is departure from one's origins.
The departure narrative is seen again in God's call to Abraham in Genesis 12:1, "Go from your country, your people and your father’s household to the land I will show you."
When Abraham's descendants became a nation, the departure narrative shows up again in Israel's exodus from Egypt.
Now when they were about to enter the Promised Land of Canaan, in Moses' pre-entrance exposition of the law (Deuteronomy), he made the fundamental, unitive statement: the Lord our God, the Lord is one (Deut.6:4). And from His infinite resources, we are commanded to love Him with all our heart, soul, and strength (6:5).
Jesus identified this commandment as the greatest. To be one with Him by being one as He is one. To be whole as He is whole. To be an integrated being as He is the supreme, integrated Being.
What does this mean for us today?
Leave and cleave.
Depart old dysfunctional systems to embrace timeless, invaluable things of eternity: faith, hope, and love. Those who live this pattern find their identity in Christ, the universal template.
What does this look like?
Slowing down for solitude, silence, and stillness.
Growing deeper, broader, higher self knowledge to "...grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God." Eph.3:18-19
From that place of security, begin letting go of that which is not aligned with the wholeness of God's Love. Create time and space for connections: to God, to others, to self.
Christmas is God's gift for an integral understanding and effective synthesis of the diverse experiences listed at the beginning of this message. It begins with the simple story of the Nativity. Christ's ministry was one of healing, ie. making people whole. He completed His mission on the cross: God's courageous, compassionate, and redemptive embrace of our pain and suffering.
The direction of this Love is oneness. More contemporary words are integration and wholeness. This will involve growing up and waking up, ie. developing maturity while also growing spiritually. This is the way, truth and life of becoming who we really are and doing what we were made to do.
This is in stark contrast to living hypocritically, always trying to please people, putting on personas that run on fumes of futility and fears. Not managing ourselves while trying to control everything else.
What does Christmas really look like?
Becoming more and more whole. A life of recovery from addictions and healing from abandonment. Forgiveness and freeedom.
Christmas is about the mystery of becoming one as He is one. We become witness to all things real and true: the good, the bad, and the painful.
Only divine love has the power to live the mystery of Christmas.
Echoing Paul's words in Ephesians 3:16-19,
"I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge—that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God."
Have a mysterious Christmas!
No Screens Necessary!
In this issue, I'm happy to host Charles Carpenter with his suggestions for holiday shopping. He has written for me previously on music and weekend activities. Many of you enjoyed those articles and I hope you will find this one helpful as well.
Be sure to click on all his links to get your wheels turning.
Cheers!
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No Screens Necessary! These Budget-Friendly Gift Ideas Are Perfect for Creative Kiddos
Whether you’re a parent, a grandparent, or anyone else who has a special little one on your gift list, it can be a challenge to find the right gift at the rightprice. It seems like kids are always using mobile devices, yet research tells us that we should limit their screen time. And while tech devices are here to stay, that doesn’t mean that hands-on toys are a thing of the past! These unique gift ideas are perfect for modern kiddos, and even better news is that buying them doesn’t have to put a strain on your budget.
Experience Gifts
If you want to find an educational gift that doesn’t require electronics, one of the first things to consider is giving an experience. Experience gifts can come in many forms. One idea is to give kids their very own luggage so that the family can take more trips together. Luggage is the perfect gift for kids to get excited about going to new places, and you can make this gift even more fun by picking something in their favorite color or a character they love. Fortunately, you can save money on these purchases by searching for luggage deals online.
Another way to give an experience is to give a subscription. Kids who love to read will enjoy a magazine or book subscription, or for a hands-on option, you can give a subscription activity box. If you opt for an activity box, Real Simple recommends some great choices for every interest, whether they like science, art, crafts, or cooking. These gifts are cost-effective because they’re ongoing, rather than a single item that kids forget quickly. Plus, with most subscriptions, you can set up automatic draft to be billed monthly rather than paying the full price all at once.
STEM Gifts
The newest buzzword in educational activities for kids is STEM, which stands for science, technology, engineering, and math. Like activity boxes that focus on specific interests, STEM gifts can be a set of supplies that encourages these activities. If the kids on your list are into science, you can find hands-on science kits for every age and interest. You can order these online, and many can also be found at craft stores where you can use coupons to save money.
Gifts by Skill Set
Instead of choosing gifts by subject, another way to pick fun and educational toys for kids is to choose by the type of skills they help build. For example, This Reading Mama breaks down gift ideas based on ones that build reading/writing, fine motor, and math skills. When you’re picking gifts by skills, age is an essential factor to consider too. For example, the best educational gifts for toddlers are tactile activities, like shape sorters and matching puzzles. Some categories work for kids of all ages, but the skill level varies by age. One example is building blocks — toddlers may love simple wooden blocks to stack, whereas older kids will enjoy more advanced building sets like Legos. Of course, generic brands of building blocks can be just as high quality as the brand names, and shopping for these toys off-label is a great way to bring down the cost.
Shopping for off-brands, using coupons, and looking for clearance deals are just a few ways you can keep holiday gifts from getting too expensive. The holiday season is magical for kids, but in spite of the fun and excitement, parents often feel stressed. We hope these ideas for choosing gifts and saving money will take your stress level down a notch so you can enjoy the magic too.
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As you foster creativity in your children, I hope you are doing the same for yourself. To be our best at home and work, the people in our lives need creativity to bring in fresh ideas, perspectives, plans and practices.
Prioritize your personal growth for 2020. Perpetual evolution towards integration is paramount, now more than ever. Without it, we lose sight of what matters most: courage, compassion, and connection.
What IS perfection?
God is perfect.
And many people try to be perfect. But often times, perfectionists make life hard on others and themselves. It happens when ideas of perfection do not align with God's; that's when perfection becomes problematic.
Jesus Christ is God's revelation of His perfection. According to Richard Rohr, it is the inclusion of things that do not seem perfect to create a fuller wholeness. In the Bible, from what happened in the Garden of Eden to God's incarnation, death and resurrection, we see Him including many imperfections to give us revelation of true perfection. Wholeness is perfection, not simply doing things right or executing our plans without delay or mistakes. Perfection is not about having things turn out exactly how we envisioned. It's how we take all of our problems in this world, internally and externally, and redeem what was lost through our collective failures and inabilities. Wholeness is folding in our toughest challenges into new, life giving solutions for all.
That's what God has been doing all along.
Jesus belonged to a poor family. He was born in a place for animals. He was a blue collar worker. He connected with those sick and disabled. He attracted those disdained by 'moral, upright' members of society. By a politically corrupt system, He was unjustly persecuted, condemned, tortured and executed. But through the Biblical record, we see meaningful integration—divine power inside human frailty. This is the wholeness we all need. It's the manifestation of the eternal virtues of faith, hope, and love that generate and foster wholeness for the human race.
When we achieve our perfections, are we creating greater wholeness for all? Especially the marginalized and oppressed? Does our perfection include the 1 lost sheep, the lost coin, or the prodigal? If it doesn't, it's not God's perfection. It only becomes part of a degenerative system perpetuating poverty and powerlessness.
With Christ, the incarnation of God, we've been given a radical revelation of true perfection and the means to wholeness.
Jesus said, "I am the gate; whoever enters through me will be saved. They will come in and go out, and find pasture. The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full." John 10:9, 10
For the longest time, this was a curious passage for me. Then I came across the idea of how we move from our home base character to engage our environment then return back to our place of rest (true self); meaning there is that which comes naturally to us and there are activities (mental and physical) that take us outside of that. Within those movements, there are stressful directions and restful ones. For example, a big part of my nature is being a maverick. I'm in my element being different, unorthodox, challenging what is normative. When I engage my world with thoughtful observation and investigation, it takes energy and generates stress. But when I move towards being helpful and nurturing, I experience relaxation and relief. I've consistently experienced this in my personal and professional life.
Movement towards stress is part of everyday life. Movement towards peace is needed. To effectively manage this dynamic, we need to operate from our home base, ie. from who we truly are. And not simply from this natural sense of self but being a healthy version of ourselves. If our core identity has been compromised (by trauma, loss, overwhelming pressures), we're living from a false self and this is dysfunctional, delusional, and possibly devastating.
What is Christ's role in this?
He is the entry way into the place of true belonging and peace. When we receive God's gift of unconditional love, we're on the journey to our true self.
But as the gate, He is also the exit point to exploring, experiencing, and engaging all of creation outside of ourselves. His love frees us from the fears of rejection and failure. With His Spirit, we have courage to go beyond our comfort zones to discover what's real and mature into greater wholeness.
Before Christ became a human being, He was the integrating principle of the entire universe. Richard Rohr has articulated this as the pattern of order, disorder, and reorder. We see this manifested in organic and inorganic matter, laws of thermodynamics, and even quantum physics. All matter and energy are governed by the Christ pattern. This is at the core of God's perfection. This is the inclusion of things that do not seem perfect (disorder) to create (reorder) a fuller wholeness.
But what stops us from experiencing this divine pattern/ Christ? Fear. No wonder the Bible contains hundreds of exhortations to not be afraid.
God's remedy? Perfect love.
The apostle John in his first epistle said, "There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear." 1 Jn 4:18
Avoiding or trying to eliminate imperfection, rather than learn how to internalize and reorder it, stops us from growing in wholeness and integration. And as we age, we miss the mark of integrity that fosters true love, joy and peace. We miss out on God’s desired perfection for us.
Center on growth.
Center on what integrates.
This is what matters most and connects us meaningfully with our loved ones, to God, and even the universe. This is the pathway of perfection.
Joining the Gig Economy?
In this post, I have the pleasure of hosting Lucy Reed, owner, blogger and developer of Gigmine.co. She shares some great tips to grow how you make money with the opportunities technology has created. Enjoy!
Getting Started In The Gig Economy
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You may have heard the term “gig economy” and wondered what it meant, or maybe you’ve wondered if it’s for you. The gig economy, simply put, is made up of workers who predominantly make a living from short-term or freelance work.
This has opened up opportunities for many people to make a living on their own terms. Some gig workers even open their own businesses. In fact, according to CNN, gig workers now make up about one-third of the workforce. If you’re wondering if you can be successful in this economy, these tips are for you.
Before You Get Started
While you may have no trouble finding gigs and clients, there are a couple of things you should know before you start.
Freelance work has no benefits. That means you’re on your own with health insurance and retirement plans. That also means no unemployment benefits when you can’t find work.
It’s best to build a nest egg before you quit your current job. Work your freelance projects on the side until you build up a clientele or regular gigs.
Inc. offers some helpful tips for newcomers on how to thrive in a gig economy.
Finding Gig Work
Gig work gives you the freedom to do what you like or try new things. For example, you can start freelancing with your existing skill set. Start by doing something you already know how to do well, anything from graphic design to writing resumes to gardening. Brainstorm how you can offer your chosen project as a service.
If you are going this route, you’ll want to find a way to showcase your work. You can use an online portfolio service or create your own website. Post writing samples or photographs of anything you create. Sell your work on Etsy, or use Upwork or Freelancer to find freelance projects. You can also try Fiverr to start selling your services.
In addition, there are established on-demand service companies, like Uber, that need gig workers. There are lots of options available - just check out this list of the 10 best sites to find gig jobs at The Balance, or this article at US News, which lists more ways to find work in the gig economy.
Running Your Business From Home
Organizing your income, expenditures, and client base is important when you're running your business out of your home. Harvard Business Review advises gig workers design four main “liberating connections:” place, routines, purpose, and people. These connections are meant to free you to be creative while making sure you get income-generating work done.
That starts with finding an at-home workspace that is secure and private enough for you to complete any work you need, whether your services are mostly done by computer or your computer is just for business accounting. A spare room is your best option for an office, but if you don’t have one, you’ll need to find a room where you can have privacy while you work.
Your space needs to be both organized and encouraging. While many feel more creative in a mess, it’s best to keep important corporate and tax documents, phone records, client contracts, and any other critical paperwork safe, sound, and easy to locate. Take stock of the technology you need (computer or laptop, printer, fax machine, etc.) and purchase reliable brands while installing a stable internet connection. You may want to invest in warranties on your electronics as well.
However, you don’t have to recreate a corporate atmosphere! Design your workspace to be inspirational and encouraging. Framed prints, motivational artwork, an unconventional desk, and even unique lighting can all contribute to a place you want to work, even if you’re just crunching numbers for the taxman. And don’t forget a comfortable chair that won’t hurt your back!
The gig economy can provide the opportunity and freedom you are seeking if you need work or are tired of the corporate life. Plan well and you can succeed with your own business.
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Thanks so much Lucy! Joining the gig economy is an exciting expression of being growth centered, the pathway to true success.
Christ Redefines Love
"...the deepest beauty of love is how it changes lives." Robbi David Wolpe
Common contemporary definitions lack depth.
We need greater understanding into this most essential, profound, and powerful thing called love.
A couple months back, I talked about Christ not being Jesus' last name but His title. He is the anointed One who unites humans with God and even all creation through His pattern of order, disorder and reorder. When we recognize and embrace this, we grow in His Spirit and the integrity of the universe.
Today I want to get more into what this means for us practically: Christ redefines love and experiencing Him changes us to grow how we love. Whole hearted belief purifies our definition of love, decreasing our confining definitions and unhealthy practices. To change our practice of love, we need to redefine love. Our understanding of love is a radical source of happiness and healing. This redefinition is an essential part of growing up to fulfill our potential to positively impact our family, work and even the world.
We want love that grows us and those around us. We all recognize positive flow when we experience it just like we know resistance and coldness when we encounter it. When our presence creates safety for mistakes and patience for substantial change, we align with the ever expanding universe. When we give up our small minded uniformity, we let go of desires for separation, superiority and control—all the things that try to stand in the way of healthy progress. Small mindedness is driven by desire for 'what's best' but at its root, it's commonly a fear of uncertainty and lack of deeper self knowledge and management. Thus discernment is needed, much more than enforcement; we need to awaken to humility that truly fosters unity and diversity. Universities were founded with this ideal in mind but floundered when its leaders lost sight of the power and vitality of the soul, succumbing to hidden, dis defaults and gaps in knowledge and understanding of the universe’s integration.
What happens when we don't let go of our smallness and receive life changing love?
Our world is static—confining us to do what ‘everyone’ else is doing, competing for ‘limiting resources’. Our mindset becomes one of scarcity. With this perspective, inclination to protect will override the healthy balance of faithful living. Abraham, the father of the Jewish nation, is also known as the father of faith. Why? God called him to leave his country and father’s household to go towards a place unnamed and unknown. This is faith and it’s contrary to a mindset of scarcity and smallness. It is also contrary to the essence of love. If our faith focuses on exclusivity and protection of what has been, we are opposing God / Love. Recall the religious leaders that persecuted Jesus. They plotted to kill Him because He was threatening the status quo and the "religion" of the Jews. Even the apostle Paul before his conversion, as he strove to cleanse his nation and religion, was confronted by Jesus asking why "...are you persecuting Me?' and "kicking against the goads?" Paul didn't know it but he was getting in God's way to bring greater love into the world, even into Paul's world.
Richard Rohr says religion is not the church we attend. It's not a set of beliefs and rituals. It's the cosmos we belong to. That's exactly what we find in the New Testament—a new cosmology. Paul, the author of 13 epistles, wrote about what God had done in Christ and how it reframes all of reality. And in this, He has redefined love.
'Religio' means to reconnect. Sincere and authentic religion reconnects us with the universe and the God who created it. Through real religion, His nature and ways become ours. We become partakers of the divine nature (2 Peter 1:4)
Why don't we see more people participating in the transforming power of divine love?
Due to our family of origin and societal pressures, we are much more compromised than we realize. We may be highly functional at work and even ministry. But what happens at home with those we love reveals the real operating system we are running. Moreover, what happens at senior leadership levels significantly reveals the presence of transformative love or not. We desperately need organizational health at all levels of society: our interior, our homes, our work places.
Jesus declared He is the way, truth and life. He is the revelation and embodiment of God's modus operandi. What would it mean to run this divine OS?
Jesus' icon is the cross. Why identify with something so humiliating and excruciatingly painful? Rohr's great insight: God folds our primary problem into His primary solution to generate greater love. The universal source of our relational problems is the pain of abandonment. It is the root of societal pathologies. An unhealed victim of abandonment perpetuates harm and abuse. The trauma may be forgotten by our conscious mind but it is retained by our subconscious. This latent root of fear and dysfunctional behavior creates havoc in our health and our management, at intra and interpersonal levels. We inaccurately perceive situations as extremely negative and we freeze, fight or flee unnecessarily, often causing more and more damage.
Jesus being nailed to the cross modeled God's refrain from actions in the midst of the agony of abandonment. He cried out, "My God, my God why have you forsaken me?" yet didn't curse, attack or blame anyone for His pain. He didn't withdraw and check out from what was going on but remained open to His close friend John, His mother Mary and even the others crucified with Him. He refused to numb His pain when a soldier offered Him a sponge with medicated wine. And He asked His Father to forgive His perpetrators because they didn't know what they were doing.
Miraculously, His execution became the doorway to resurrection, where renewal and restoration recreated and reframed reality for us. This is the Gospel and its power which gives us courage to follow Love's downward flow, the descent of humility to partake in the divine nature. It is a wilderness experience that God’s Spirit leads us into. This spiritual work redefines how we love by humbling ourselves to take up our cross, this is the practice of divine love.
The Gospel, God's source code, empowers us to create new possibilities for a brighter future for all. This practice is the source of forgiveness, releasing us from toxic grudges, resentments and limiting cosmologies. With God’s power, there is even healing for the devastating tragedies of toxic stress.
Running this new OS, we bear witness to the risen and always loving Christ. Our soul's need for intrinsic freedom is fulfilled. We are going to Galilee to meet Him. (see my previous post)
In contrast, when we simply react to abandonment pain, we do not forgive and we also do not experience forgiveness and thus will not love as God loves. We are not letting go of hurts and limiting beliefs and values. We're stuck in a repetitive past. Being stuck becomes a default and we live in a self created hell, a small pathetic place that fosters isolation and misery leading to regret and bitterness, aka gnashing of teeth.
The death and resurrection of Jesus the Christ is the cosmological source of divine love. This is God's gift to His creation, a very accessible pattern for freedom and largeness of soul. Without this grace, there is no future or creativity. Without its transformation, we end up believing things will never change because 'that's just the way the universe is'. This is a radical lie generated from minds and hearts set on scarcity.
A spacious soul is always ready and eager to love. It is willing to lay aside rules for a life giving relationship (Colossians 2:13-15).
This is the universal definition of love that transcends any human categorization ie. Christian, Muslim, Buddhist, Taoist, Agnostic, Atheist, etc. This is a love that invites all to participate regardless of profession or socioeconomic status. It's all about a choice. Hold on to the effects of past dysfunction or say yes to new possibilities of divine, universal love.
More than anything else, this is the love our families need. With this love, we thrive, our marriages last, and our children and future generations are blessed.
This is why I center on growth.